I have been bdsm-aware pretty much as long as I can remember. My experience to date has been limited to personal relationships; I've never been part of a bdsm scene, or any scene, really. I don't place much stock in scenes, labels, movements, or paradigms. But I am starting to explore the local scene a bit.

The checklist method of categorizing yourself, while pleasingly approachable, is lacking in finesse, so I will try to explain myself, although one thing you should know about me is that I hate explaining myself. I'm a musician, a geek, an amateur intellectual, an amateur viking, a changeling, an absent-minded professor. I am also a respectable middle-class guy, although I'm not entirely sure how that happened. I'm pretty down-to-earth for someone who uses the word 'paradigm' in an online profile. I can be very passionate but usually try not to. I like expensive cheese and other small indulgences.

I'm looking for play, and I'm perfectly open towards something steady, but I'm not especially looking to leap into anything serious anytime soon (which doesn't mean never - it just means not anytime soon). Erotically, I lean strongly towards the BD part of BDSM. I'm not looking for lifestyle bdsm, or being dominant outside of the sexual part of a relationship. That said, I don't think that the sexual part of a relationship necessarily stops in the bedroom, or kitchen floor, or wherever - I just don't have any need to express dominance socially, or to play a role other then Me. For me, bdsm is a game, a very serious game that runs deep within me, and I would like to win.

Virgo

Average

6' 0 (1.83 m)

Green

Caucasian

Single

No

No

Feet

Secret Piercings, Visible Tattoo

Brown

Cat

No

College Degree

Full-time

Computers / Electronic

Web Developer

Alone

Friends Come Over Occasionally

No

Yes - Often

Outcast

Reserved, Friendly, Comedic, Dark, Strange

Reading, Learning, Music, Games, Computers

Trying New Things, Drinking, Reading A Book, Going To A Concert, Going To A Museum

Skydiving.

Cool

Spiritual But Not Religious

To use my gifts well, find my place, leave things better than I found them, and try to understand that which can be understood. Also I like to make very loud noises occasionally.

Clever, Dry / Sarcastic, Obscure

I'm A Recording Artist

Playing music is my main non-work related pursuit. I go see live music a lot, of all different kinds (or maybe just one kind - as Duke Ellington said once "There are just two kinds of music, good music and bad music.")I listen to NPR quite a lot, I play video games more than I should and I go out dancing a lot less than I should.

Intelligence, Good Looks, Humor, Empathy, Oddities, Spontaneity, Wit, Thoughtfullness

Domination, Bondage, Date, Just Wanna Fuck