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I have always been a dominant person, and I have been involved in the s&m scene for years. Sadly though, I am often disappointed with those I meet: both doms and subs. It seems that most of what I see in the community is a performance rather than a genuine power exchange. Subs in the lifestyle so often give up their power with no expectation that their submission should be earned. They seem content with someone who can simply act the part. Doms expect to be in control with no expectation of judgement, standard, or responsibility for the power they have been entrusted. It almost seems as if there is some type of s&m behavior study guide out there which includes scripts for most of the "scenes" we engage in. I don't agree with this scenario at all because I feel it is simply a performance, and as such, deprives those involved of the most powerful emotions associated with s&m, to be truly powerful or truly powerless. As a dom, to be worthy of the ultimate responsibility of the trust your partner has placed in you. The trust that you know what's best, when to push, to stop, and above all else, when to look past fear and penetrate the emotional walls all subs eventually have. This is a role I take more seriously than any other, I do not feel entitled to your trust, or that it should come easily. To me it is not a prize to be won, but rather a privilege to be earned. My subs are my treasures, the most beautiful things to me. I am thankful for all they offer me and that I may become a better man and leader through the experiences they share with me. The value of a leader can only be measured by the improvement in those who follow him. I hold myself to this standard and my subs can expect nothing less. I will do all within my power to make you grow as person, gain self respect, and if all goes well, have a few orgasms along the way. I am not into performances, I am a genuinely dominant man both inside the bedroom and out. My approach to the community is a bit different, I don't intimidate, demean, or degrade unless those activities are of some real use to my sub. I try to command respect and inspire my subs to follow and obey through my actions and demeanor. Through my experiences, I have found this to be the only way to gain the trust and respect necessary to fully advantage from these types of relationships. I expect my subs to constantly grow as people through their sexual experience and they can expect my absolute respect, consideration and devotion in return. To me chivalry is not dead and belongs in our community. If you are still reading you may think that my opinion of the dominant role is somewhat odd and maybe soft, but it is not. I prefer sex to be rough and primal, but only as much as my partner is ready for . I don't want my partners to feel any responsibility for my pleasure, I will be responsible for theirs and take pleasure from my success and the power I have to satisfy. I also don't want my partner to ever have to fear pushing me too far, it would be inhibiting and make no sense for a woman to fear her man's limits, weaknesses, or fears. To her there should be none, and he should be her anchor. I think fear and pain are valuable to the creation of a beautiful relationship and are the foundations of trust and respect. If a woman is going to submit to me sexually she must first respect me trust me and feel safe. The only way to inspire such feelings is to be attentive and perceptive enough to guide her down whatever path she may need to wander to gain fulfillment. My only two steadfast rules are, cause no emotional damage and never betray my partner's trust. To end, I am a very sexually open person, not easily bothered or offended. My pain tolerance is oddly high and I love things to be rough and combative. I am skilled with ropes and have a deep love and respect for women of all types, so if you have read all of this and still have an interest in me, please make it known, I want to know you and understand your desire

Aquarius

Athletic

6' 0 (1.83 m)

Blue

Caucasian

Single

No

Not Sure

Eyes

Strategically Placed Tattoo, Visible Tattoo

Dark Blonde

Cat

No

Some College

Self-employed

Finance / Trading

real estate and stock market investor

$75,000USD To $99,999USD

Alone

All Is Calm

No

Yes - Socially

Cool Dude

Observant, Friendly, Comedic, Flirtatious, Outgoing

Exercising, Arts & Crafts, Reading, Learning, Movies, Clubbing / Bar Hopping, Dining, Theater

Hanging Out With Friends, Staying At Home, Trying New Things, The Movies, Relaxing, Extreme Sports, Reading A Book, Going To A Museum

I try to keep first dates simple with few expectations and little pressure. I would start with a long dinner at a nice restaurant. We would hopefully have a lot to talk about and the expected first date tension should be diminishing by the end of dinner. Then if all went well, a quiet bar for more intimate conversation and a few drinks. I usually like to end first dates here and bring my dates home. I always walk my dates to the door and depending on the chemistry end the night with a kiss and a real feeling that I have shown her a good time.

I have lead a pretty full life and don't find myself wanting for much, but what I do desire i feel is better left in the bedroom next to the cuffs.

Friendly, Someone They Want To Be, Obscure

Atheist

Never

Middle Of The Road

I avoid worrying about weather I am right or wrong and simply try to make good decisions for good reasons. This process has worked well for me and I expect it will continue do so, as I am not planning to loose my focus or mind. So at my death I would like to think that my life was perfect at least in the sense that it needed nothing added or removed, and had a unique balance to it.

Clever, Dry / Sarcastic, Raunchy, Sadistic

Documentaries, Dramas, Movies

Action, Science Fiction, Comedy, Romance, Drama, Documentary, Animation, Horror, Thriller, Adult

Rock, Metal, Electronic, Classical, Industrial, Ambient, Dance

Ancient, Biography, Business, Fantasy, History, Philosophy, Political, Religious, Science Fiction

I am a very flexible and can enjoy most things, but given the nature of the site i will keep it sexual. I am tired of people who claim to be open minded and sexually adventuresome who clam up as soon I nibble, scratch, or -god forbid- slam them against a wall. I want someone I can take the gloves off with, and be myself around, and show a few things to. I am done with VANILLA sex and boring people. We, as human beings have so much more to offer each other, let's start, and see what fun we can have.

Intelligence, Good Looks, Great Skills, Empathy, Sensitivity, Boldness, Oddities, Flirtatiousness, Wit, Thoughtfullness

Our sexuality is, in my opinion, the foundation of our personality and worth exploring above all else. I have a difficult time finding people who share this opinion and are willing to let me lead them into those dark places in our minds we have so long been trained to ignore or worse to feel shameful of. I want to find someone who has, not only the courage, but the desire to expand herself through sex. I am tired of women being ashamed of themselves because of what they need and desire. I want a woman is ready to enjoy and desire without fear or shame.

Domination, Bondage, Date